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Sunday, August 17, 2014

Letting love in

Last week I had to do something that I am not really all that good at. I had to reach out and ask for help. I don't like to ask for help. I love to help ... but being on the receiving end ... oh, that is not as easy for me. It feels weak. Vulnerable. Open to be rejected. And I believe that it is better to give than to receive. 

But three days before a really big wedding ... a wedding where I was in charge of everything... I found myself flat on my back in the hospital. And I was left with no choice but to ask for help.

I had a friend spend the entire day with me in the hospital. She drove me there, stayed with me, and after bringing me back home went up to the store and picked up the medication I was prescribed. Another friend spent hours preparing all the wedding flowers so that all I had to do was make the arrangements. And other friend drove me around running errands, so that I would not wear myself out. 

-Morrie Schwartz

It was a good lesson for me, this "asking for help" thing. What I learned, is that asking letting people help me is a gift, not only to me, but also to them. When you let others help you, it gives them a chance to be a good friend, to share their love and kindness and to feel the reward of giving to someone else. And that is what life is all about.

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Lynda said...

You said this so well! I feel the same way as you too!its very difficult to be on the receiving end, but there are times when we don't have a choice and that's ok!!!

StagerLinda said...

I'm sure your friends were eager to help because you are always a giver. It is hard to ask for help. I learned that lesson when I had a broken ankle and to rely on friends and family for weeks. You are such a loving and dear person, I'm sure your friends were grateful for the opportunity to help you with all your chores of prepping for a very special event. I say BRAVO for relinquishing control. I would have been a basket case! Glad it all turned out so beautifully.