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Sunday, May 12, 2013

Mother's Day and no regrets

"A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary."
-Dorothy Canfield Fisher
Sarah & Bendrix

Non. Je ne regrette rien.
It means "I have no regrets" and it is the new poster I just bought. It was inspired by the Edith Piaf song and is a simple statement that means life is to be lived without regrets and in full. I may not frame it for a while (no time) but it will someday hang in my home to be a reminder.

This year I decided to work differently. I wanted to make time to live. I thought about my children and my new grand-daughter and how I was missing out on so many things because I was always working. And I thought about my mom. She is 83 years young, but I did not want to look back someday and say that I had missed some amazing moments with her because I was just too busy. So I started to "X" out some days each month on my calendar and take some personal days off. 

When a good friend of mine was battling terminal cancer in her (and my) 40's, her brother told her to live with no regrets. It was great advice. Make peace where you need to, don't look back someday wishing you had done something differently, or missed an opportunity. No regrets. Live now. 

So last week, with a full schedule and a party to style the next day (and all the preparations that go along with that), I decided to take my mom along with me on my errands. I knew she would enjoy going along the the rental store (they have so many pretty things) and I knew she would love walking around Roger's Gardens. I just had to pick up a couple of things and could have been in and out in 20 minutes but instead we spent a couple of hours walking around slowly, looking at all the plants and flowers and patio furniture. We took time to have a lovely lunch and do a little shopping at her favorite gourmet grocery store.  I was overcome with gratitude; so incredibly happy that I had my mom to spend the day with. 

I am out of town right now, writing this from my daughter's house. I am here with both of my girls and my sweet granddaughter (and hoping that my mom will decide to make the trek up here as well). Again, I am filled with gratitude. 

Our Mother's Day Menu - found here   

Happy Mother's Day to all of us. To those of us who have birthed a child and to those who have not. To our friends who have filled in where our mothers could not and to our daughters who helped us be better women. To our sisters who hold our hands love us unconditionally, and to those of us who are left only with the memories of the moms we wish we still had with us. To those who "mother us" whether they gave birth to us or not; for being our soft place to fall and the place where we get our strength. This is for all of you ... my friends, my sisters, my daughters and my mom ... I hope you all have a wonderful day and know how loved and important you are. xxoo

"God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers."-Jewish proverb


Robbie said...

Your words touched my heart. Have a lovely Mothers Day my sweet friend, Sherri.

Mary Ann Pickett said...

What a lovely thing to do at Roger's Gardens. Enjoy your day, Sherri...all the best.